So what happens when you stop dating? When you meet someone you like and decide that you want to put everything into this relationship – what happens then?

So is this a date or a relationship?

Why? You may be wondering!

Well I have recently entered a relationship – one that has the makings of a serious relationship.

Still not getting it?

I have been single for three years. I have been dating for three years. I have a three year old online personality. I have three years of friends with benefits in my little black book. I have three years of online communication with various random people.

Friends with benefits??

What happens to all of that? Do I simple delete my profiles on all the online dating sites? Which I haven’t actually used in ages anyway so that wont be a huge deal. Do I delete all the numbers of my FWB from my phone book?

Do I end all those relationships?

Recently on my way to meet my new man I received a text from a fwb – he wanted to hook up and was most upset I wasn’t keen. Despite the fact that our relationship was never more than the odd hook up now and then, he was wounded.

So, what to do now?

I wounded another friend when I failed to mail him one day and when I apologised I said that I was seeing someone now and he occupied the free time I did have during work. Him and I were never more than friends and yet he was still wounded that now he had been bumped down.

So again I ask – do I end all these relationships?

Obviously the answer to the FWB is easy. Yes those relationships have to end. If they can not be my friend without the benefits then yes they need to go.

Friends with benefits, and we’re talking about those on the social

I suppose the same would apply for the other friends. If they aren’t able to accept that now they are knocked a notch down on the food chain then they would have to end. Right?

It is a tricky one and one I don’t have the answers to right now. For so long now I have been single and never had to worry about this. I have always had more than enough to go around. Now my time is spent with the new man in my life. He wants my time and rightfully so.

Who do you spend your time with?

But it still leaves a wake of broken relationships of people (ok mainly men) who have been in my life the last three years.

It is not a simple, easy thing to do.