As a woman, maybe I am not qualified to write about this or maybe the title should be – What Laura thinks men want.
Having dated a lot of men I think I do have a fair idea of what they are looking for in a woman. It is noteworthy that it is not, in fact what you would think it is. It is not a big boobed, super skinny, Angelina Jolie look a like demon in bed type women.
Erm, are you sure Laura??
I asked a few of my guy friends what 5 things they look for in a woman. Now these men ranged from 26 year olds to 52 year olds. (It is also noteworthy that the 26 year old and 52 year old had the exact same 5 qualities.).
The replies in general were pretty similar with one or two differing. The main qualities that these men were looking for were; integrity, ambition, confidence, intelligence, honesty and adventurous.
So there you have it men are looking for an adventurous, confident woman who are honest, intelligent and have ambition and integrity. Simple as that.
A confident woman is key
I do actually believe it as simple as that. Men aren’t as complicated as we like to make them out to be. Also they want what we want. To be loved, respected and cherished – although you would be hard pressed to find a man who would admit to wanting to be cherished.
Women are their own worst enemies and make assumptions for men about what they think they are looking for. Of course the busty blond is going to get their attention. Of course the pretty brunette in the short skirt is going to make them turn their heads. It’s natural.
They can’t help it, they’re men
Don’t you drool a little at the blonde surfer-like dude with the body of a Greek god? Don’t you stare as the smooth model-type perfectly dressed dude walks past? I do. It’s natural to appreciate the beauty of another human being.
But just because that’s what grabs their attention doesn’t mean its what holds it. The busty blonde may do wonders for their status amongst their friends but I have heard guys talk about the busty blonde girlfriend and I have heard them talk about the plainer girlfriend who makes their friend happy. Trust me you want to be the plainer girlfriend. Boys appreciate the fact you can hold a conversation with their friends about sport and music or whatever it is they are interested in. Boys want to show you off to their friends, they can’t show you off if all their friends are trying to feel you up and you appear open to the possibility.
Who are they happy with?
So simply put, men want what women want. They want to be with someone who wants to be with them. Someone who accepts them for who they are and what they have to offer. That is all.
