My girlfriends and I were debating how to answer this question a while ago.

We have all been asked at some point or other and those that have answered honestly have had do deal with the consequence of that!

Sometimes this isn’t the conversation you want to have…

So what is the right answer? And why does it matter?

Well the right answer (in an ideal world) is the truthful answer. Regardless of how wild (or not) your past may have been. If someone wants to ask a question they need to prepare themselves for the answer they may not want to hear.

But having said that, you need to take into account the person you are with. Not many men can handle it if you reply 35 and they have barely made double digits. So if you know your partner hasn’t experienced life as much as you have, then maybe give a conservative figure. If he is a player and you have no intention of marrying him then a generous number is needed.

NO I am not saying lie. I am just saying manipulate the truth. There was a time you did only sleep with 4 people and you may still reach 45!

Form an orderly queue!

I am not really sure why it is important though? I am not sure why some guys obsess about it.

Maybe it is simple insecurity because the more you have had the more you have to compare too and the chances are you have had more good sex with other men than with your current partner.

Maybe it is competition. Simply wanting to have bagged more people than the person they are currently sleeping with.

So who has bagged the most?

Whatever it is, it seems men want to know. They don’t necessarily want to share with you their conquest total but they want to know yours. I have only ever had the discussion with two guys – both were more best friends and still neither of them could tell me their number. Weird that don’t you think?

Ideally you actually want to rather avoid this conversation. It really ends well. In fact it never ends well. So it may be easier to distract your partner by suggesting your work on your different position list.

This is a good way to distract!

Some battles are not worth it.