Up until a couple of months ago I was a serial cheater.

I was the girl who had a boyfriend but also had a play thing or two. I was the girl who would kiss a boy on Friday night and a different one on Saturday night while my boyfriend was away with his mates or at home thinking I was somewhere behaving.

No, I’m playing snake, honestly!

I was the girl who really didn’t even care if he found out because I had a line waiting to full his spot.

I was the girl who lied and schemed and was all round just not very proper.

Then I grew up. I realised what I was doing was destructive to not only me but the many men I was involving and ultimately hurting along the way.

Why did I do it? For the same reason anyone cheats – because you can. It is as simple as that. It’s about the rush of doing it and getting away with it!

But there are a few common reasons why people cheat – none of them ever make it excusable or justifiable.

The biggest reason, for me was that I could do it.

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Then there is the need for constant validation from someone else. The need to feel wanted – even if for all the wrong reasons.

And let’s not forget about the “I am unhappy in my relationship” one. Or the “We haven’t had sex is 5 years”

Of course you do get the honest “mistakes”. You know when you get so drunk and one minute there is a strange tongue down your throat and then the next minute there are clothes on the floor and you are experience all kinds of pleasure. Hey it does happen and can really be blamed on too much alcohol.

Whatever the reasons though, cheating is wrong. Even if you are that drunk, it is not justifiable. Each time I cheated I knew this.

• If you need constant validation – get help!
• If you are unhappy in your relationship – get out!
• If you haven’t had sex in 5 years – take your girlfriend/wife out. Pamper her a little bit, pay attention to her – maybe then she will want to put out. If not – get out!
• If you are that drunk – go home!

It is that easy. Leaving a path of destruction in your wake is not right. It is not how people deserve to be treated and is not how you should treat yourself.

So next time you want to kiss someone who isn’t yours – DON’T! Think how you would feel if your girlfriend was kissing someone who wasn’t hers?