Its one of the worst things that can happen in a relationship. Not only does it destroy the trust but it is also a little blow to the ego, knowing that she would rather be with someone else or that someone is able to fulfill her better than you can.
Which couple in this picture is cheating??
But unfortunately it happens. There are signs; some blatant and some not so obvious. Here are a few things to be on the look out for.
• She starts going to more afternoon meetings that she used to. People often say “she would never cheat, where would she find the time?” Where there is a will there is a way and that way is usually during work hours, often because the other person works with her somehow. So if she never used to attend meetings or had one once in a while and suddenly she now has a weekly Thursday afternoon meeting that lasts the entire afternoon – maybe start asking a few questions. Don’t accuse her (just yet) because her boss may very well have decided on weekly team meetings. Act interested and ask what they talked about – simple things like that!
If this are where her meetings are - you’re in trouble!
• The above reason leads to the second point. She suddenly really enjoys her job. She looks forward to going to work. Yesterday she hated her job and her colleagues, today she loves them all. Sure sign that either a hot new guy has started or she looks forward to being able to see her special person, talk to him on the phone without having to worry about you.
Work is fun? That’s gotta raise alarm bells!
• Her phone is constantly within her reach. While we may be in the age of technology it is not normal to sit with your phone in your hand while watching TV or carry it into the bathroom at home. These are signs of either a serious obsessive compulsive disorder or she is reducing the chances you see a text or call from someone she doesn’t want you too.
Have no access to her phone?
• A sudden interest in a sport you know she never knew about. This would be one of those subtle signs. You are watching rugby and she comments on the player offside or how Habana has improved since last season. Your initial response may be that she has decided to find this information out for your benefit, maybe she has, but if you have watched countless rugby games together with no interest from here then chances are she is not doing it for you.
So, Bourdai is going to a three stop strategy?
• She loses interest or her interest increases dramatically in sex. The decrease in sex could be because she is being fulfilled elsewhere and simple has no energy for you. And increase could be because she feels guilty and knows the way to keep you happy (and distracted) is to ensure you have more sex than you thought possible.
How can you be tired? It’s 10am on a Bank Holiday Monday!
• She starts walking outside when she gets a phone call. Often when in a relationship and the phone rings you are comfortable enough to remain in the room. So if she suddenly starts walking outside, into the bedroom or anywhere you are not either she is planning your surprise birthday party or she is cheating.
Don’t listen in to my calls!
• If you guys have always gone out as a couple, with the odd girls/boys nights out here and there and now she starts needing to go out with her friends more and more and is rather vague about the reason or venue, the maybe you need to start asking a few subtle questions to her friends (or rather their boyfriends).
Lots of new girls night outs may be a worry
• A blatant sign would be “Rob says” or “Rob doesn’t do it like that” (especially in bed!). When that happens you have a few options open. You can leave, you can have Rob taken out, you can make a move on Robs girlfriend/mother/sister or you can ignore it and carry on in blissful happiness. But whatever you decide to do, know that your girlfriend is cheating on you.
Just hope Rob isn’t him
A cheating partner is never fun to have to deal with because often you are dealing with speculations but my advise is, if you suspect she is cheating – start snooping, find proof - and then snog her best friend!
